Sex Out of Marriage

Today, My pluiepoca told me by QQ (a Chinese instant messenger) that her sister-in-law's friend's wife did that bad thing, the friend was very sad, my pluiepoca, her sister-in-law tried to pacify the poor guy.

During that time, her sister-in-law told pluiepoca that marriage is unstable, she suggested that one should not marry.

Pluiepoca told me this, she said she had known this long before, and she did not expect much from life.

I don't want to disagree with her, so I come here for a discussion.

As pluiepoca said, today, the world turns to be very dirty, people's moral level is very low, back to primitive society.

So, can we believe in marriage. and if the best half of your own did that bad thing, could you endure it or what would you do?

This reply might be a little late, but cheating in marriage is an eternal issue.

Well, if I were to marry and my husband were to cheat on me, I might forgive him for the first time, but I would ask him firmly not to make the same mistake again. If the same thing happens the second time, I will divorce him right away. As they say, after all, it's not like one can't live without someone else.

Having said that, I do belive in marriage, since one shouldn't quit eating because one is afraid of being choked to death. After all, marriage is a beautiful thing - it bounds a man and a woman (well, could be two men or two women) together to form a family; it provides both parties with security and stability in emotion and economy; and it is, to put it frankly, by far the only absolutely leagal way in which one is to pursue sexual relationship in China (I don't believe they allow sex before marriage in the law). The reason for getting into a marriage may mostly be that the two parties are in love with other, but to sustain a marriage, the couple needs to treat each other with dignity, trust, patience, tenderness, understanding, as well as responsibility. I don't see a reason that the tragedy you related would happen if both (and I mean BOTH) parties were to cherish one another whole-heartedly.

I'm afraid I was sort of boasting in my "speech" above, but please bear with me. Anyway, my best wishes to you and your pluiepoca, may you live happily ever after.